Being Intentional About Pursuing Your Spouse

Before your baby and children arrive, it’s nice to think that you’ll easily be able to balance being both a wife and a mama. But once you become a mom reality hits and you quickly realize it’s hard work and requires you to be thoughtful about your marriage and intentional about pursuing your spouse.

I’m having to consistently remind myself of this fact: no matter how much time and energy are consumed caring and loving my newborn baby, my relationship with my husband is still number one. Obviously that doesn’t mean that I leave Girly Q crying while she’s hungry, soiled, or in pain from teething (yep! we’re in that fun stage). But what it does mean is that I have to find moments and time when Girly Q doesn’t need me, to pursue my man.

It’s great to be comfortable around your husband but that doesn’t mean throwing romance out the window. Remember those days when every little detail mattered so much, the perfect hair, the perfect outfit, the little surprise gifts and the sweet words and how that created the extra smiles and all the laughs? I don’t want that to fizzle! So here are some practical ways I have found to be intentional about pursuing my husband.

Practical Ways to Intentionally Pursue Your Spouse:

• I have my hubby call me when he is headed home from work. This gives me a warning that it’s my last minute chance to pretty myself up. It can be easy as putting on some jewelry, making my hair nice, or sometimes, if I’m still in my pajamas (yes! that happens), then it might just mean throwing on some real clothes. It can be anything as long it’s one step nicer than just whatever.
• Take the time to write him a sweet note even if it’s just 2 words. This is especially great if his love language is words of encouragement! Read about love languages here – we both have read this and it has saved us a lot of grief in our marriage!
• Cook his favorite meal or ask him out on a date {here’s our favorite $10 date idea}.
• Is a clean house important to him? Tackle one room today (or maybe just one counter).
• Be intentional about meeting him at the door when he gets home. Give him a smooch and steal a few minute with him before the kids get a chance (you could even meet him at his car and hop in for a minute to catch up before he comes inside).

 

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