Comments on: How to Respect a New Mom’s Boundaries

By: Alida

Alida — Fri, 16 Oct 2015 20:35:21 +0000

In reply to Adrienne. How sweet of you! It's hard for moms to take it easy after birth, especially if a dirty house is staring at them all day. You sound like a new mom's postpartum dream!

By: Adrienne

Adrienne — Mon, 28 Sep 2015 17:18:03 +0000

Not having a baby myself, when my best friend had hers I was a little at a loss as to how I could help. I felt badly that I was coming from out of town (and would normally stay at her house when visiting), so I offered to do all the daily cleaning and did some cooking. She felt bad (I didn’t), but appreciated having clean laundry and vacuumed and mopped floors. After a rough delivery, no momma wants to vacuum and he husband was already back to work! I wish I had thought to bring food I already made. Then I could have avoided digging in their kitchen to find things.

By: Alida

Alida — Sun, 24 May 2015 12:57:10 +0000

In reply to Brieanna. Great point!

By: Brieanna

Brieanna — Sun, 24 May 2015 07:01:33 +0000

I think the biggest thing that bugged me was people not doing what they said they were willing to do! If you can’t or don’t want to do something then don’t offer exspecially to a brand new mom who is already stressed out beyond measure.

By: Alida

Alida — Tue, 12 May 2015 14:09:18 +0000

In reply to lyndsay withey. Thanks for sharing! So true about specific needs for each situation!

By: lyndsay withey

lyndsay withey — Sat, 09 May 2015 19:07:00 +0000

When our daughter was born, we had to be transferred to the local Children’s Hospital and stay in the NICU for 17 days. That was really hard for us with traveling back and forth. The best thing anyone did for us was to offer to come to the hospital so I could take a break and get a shower. We have people wanting to bring us meals but we weren’t home to eat them. However I did have a lot of friends ask if they could help with anything at home. We had just moved and nothing was unpacked at our new place. I had friends who went and unpacked our kitchen for us, Set up the crib. It was great!

By: Jmh

Jmh — Mon, 30 Mar 2015 22:03:55 +0000

I would add that visitors should not expect to hold a newborn baby for long periods of time (or at all,for that matter). Mom and baby need each other, and having your baby ‘taken’ for extended periods of time I s pretty traumatic when dealing with those hormones! Ask first and be ok with the response you get. Building trust will get you more access to baby cuddles in the long run!