Comments on: Intentional Parenting: 3 Things I’m Trying to Say LESS to My Young Child

By: Alida

Alida — Tue, 16 Aug 2016 15:13:08 +0000

In reply to Melissa. Great thoughts! Thanks for adding quality to this conversation.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 12 Aug 2016 17:01:02 +0000

I really like all the alternatives to daddy is at work, but once the kiddos are older I think it’s really important to let them in on the reality that daddy is at work, working hard to tak care of us, provide for our family, aren’t we blessed , make sure to say thanks for all the hard work he does outside our home etc. Etc ….just a thought! #2 and 3 are the hardest for me especially with having a boy. Great suggestions!

By: Alida

Alida — Fri, 16 Oct 2015 20:30:43 +0000

In reply to Kandy Hannula. Couldn't agree more! You'd love this post on "shy" kids and letting them discover themselves: https://www.therealisticmama.com/shy-child/, the quote in the post is one of my favorites!

By: Kandy Hannula

Kandy Hannula — Sun, 04 Oct 2015 02:50:10 +0000

Love this list. And can I just add, “You’re just shy.” Something parents should not say to their children.

By: Nina

Nina — Tue, 29 Sep 2015 18:01:26 +0000

Found myself nodding the entire time I read this 🙂 We went through a ‘daddy’ phase too where I also kept explaining that he’s at work. But with digging deeper, I realized that he missed him, and I addressed that instead. And yes, I try not to say ‘be careful’ because I feel like it shows I don’t trust their judgment. Instead I give useful tips like ‘make sure your foot is on the bar first’ or something like that!

By: Leigh-Ellen

Leigh-Ellen — Mon, 14 Sep 2015 12:06:59 +0000

I really struggle with number three. It’s so easy to let our own anxieties and fears take over. It’s something I have to work on everyday.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sun, 13 Sep 2015 01:14:13 +0000

So glad I read your article! Definitely helped me to be more aware of how often I used these phrases before, and how often I change my responses now. Thanks for sharing!

By: Rachel @ CanDo Kiddo

Rachel @ CanDo Kiddo — Mon, 31 Aug 2015 01:54:19 +0000

In reply to Christina @There’s Just One Mommy.

I find that I stumble over my words a lot when trying to say something other than “be careful!” It’s so hard in those moments when we’re worried about our kids to maintain full brain function. Just remember that the goal isn’t to eliminate saying “be careful” – rather, just to reserve it for the times it really matters. Thanks for your comment!

By: Rachel @ CanDo Kiddo

Rachel @ CanDo Kiddo — Mon, 31 Aug 2015 01:52:09 +0000

In reply to Tricia. It is SO hard to change those automatic responses we give our kiddos! I know I have a dozen others but these feel like my "big 3" right now. We'll never say everything just right but bringing a little awareness helps and it sounds like you're doing just that with "no".

By: Tricia

Tricia — Sun, 30 Aug 2015 18:57:54 +0000

I try to avoid the “no” a lot (it’s difficult though!), but I never thought about the other two. I realize that I’m guilty of saying “daddy’s at work” and “be careful” quite a bit. It just slips out without me even thinking about it.