Here are 10 fun ideas to continue cultivating confidence in your child! Remember, I’m a mom like you, these are ideas that we’re currently learning, trying or doing. Please share with us what’s working in your house in the comments at the end of the post.
1. Encourage exploration & imagination.
Create and allow for opportunities for them to learn on their own and discover their surroundings. Limit screen time so they have to self-entertain and create fun for themselves rather than having a device doing the work for them.
2. Limit how often you use the word “no.”
First let me say, I believe there is a time and place for the word no and is a word that children do need to here. The reminder here is to simply be more thoughtful that you don’t over use it and discourage your child’s creativity and confidence.
3. Give specific compliments.
Give specific compliment for the behavior you want to see more of!
“I noticed you helped your sister clear the table even though it wasn’t your night. That was very sweet and shows true character, keep it up!”
“I’m so impressed! It took a lot of determination to finish that puzzle.”
4. Eye contact.
There was a video circulating Facebook a while back about how young toddlers think they are hidden when they cover their eyes (and no other part of their body). I decided to try it with my 3 year old daughter, I covered my eyes and asked her if she could see me. She responded, “no.” I uncovered my eyes and asked again if she could see me. She responded, “yes.” We did this several times with the same results. Several months later, I tried it with my 2 year old son again with the same results.
The point is kids need eye contact from us and not just during discipline. They need it during positive moments to feel loved and safe so they can continue to grow confidently to who they were meant to be.
The book How to Really Love a Child has an entire chapter on the importance of eye contact!
5. Quality time.
Quality time with kids can not be bought. It requires giving children your most precious resource—time. But giving up our time to spend quality time with our kids reaps tremendous results!
6. Teach them how to create goals.
Check out this great post on Making a Bucket List with Your Kid to help you get started.
7. Assign them with age appropriate chores.
Chores allows for a sense of ownership, teach responsibility and ultimately create confidence in who they are as individuals.
For older children assigning chores ahead of time teaches self management as well. Some kids will need reminders and directions to begin, especially if chores are new to them. Eventually you want to get to the point where they are self managing, here are some examples of what you can say to help.
- “I’ve noticed you’ve been doing a great job making your bed! What’s your plan for cleaning the toys off the floor?”
- “Don’t forget the kitchen needs to be swept before dinner.”
- “I’d love to watch a movie with you but remember chores have to be done first.”
You know your child best, figure out what works for your family, you can search Pinterest for more resources like chore sticks, chore bracelets and age appropriate chores.
8. Give them a confidence boost.
Pick one of their bigger goals and create opportunities for it to happen. An example would be if they need extra money for it to happen don’t just hand them a wad of cash, hire them to clean the house or wash the car for x amount of money or help them have a bake sale for the neighbors. With older children and larger goals they may have to do multiple tasks over multiple days to earn enough.
Teach kids how to communicate by communicating with them. Have frequent conversations about the littles things as well as the big things. This book is a great place to start, it includes a question to ask your kids each day!
10. Love Yourself.
Our children are watching us, whether we like it or not. Modeling behavior is one of the most powerful ways to teach behavior. It’s time we stop being so hard on ourselves. Let’s begin treating ourselves the way we want our kids to treat themselves.
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