Comments on: How to be supportive when birth doesn’t go as planned

By: The Realistic Mama

The Realistic Mama — Sun, 18 May 2014 17:15:56 +0000

In reply to Amanda. If you have the time and are looking for support, ICAN meetings can be really encouraging.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 14 May 2014 00:25:31 +0000

I’m so glad you shared this! I relive the birth of my daughter all the time because it was not what I had expected or planned. I couldn’t really figure out why it bothered me or why I can’t just let go. After reading this, I realize it’s normal and I’m almost relieved to know other women may feel disappointed or upset about how the birth of their child went.

By: The Realistic Mama

The Realistic Mama — Mon, 12 May 2014 13:47:29 +0000

In reply to Betsy @ BPhotoArt. That's a great point. I do believe it makes a huge difference who is asking, how much you trust them, etc. Thanks for sharing.

By: Betsy @ BPhotoArt

Betsy @ BPhotoArt — Mon, 12 May 2014 12:18:30 +0000

This is so true. But, along those same lines, moms who had a birth that didn’t go as planned will not always tell people the real problem — I was guilty of that after my cesarean… In response to “how are you doing?” I’d say, “fine” — my thought process was no one wanted to hear about how I was frustrated or sad with the recovery for me, disappointed in the way the birth progressed, etc. I guess it depends on who is asking though, huh? As to whether the mom will feel her honest answer gets criticized or supported.