Comments on: Raising a Confident Child While They Are Still Young

By: Jasmine

Jasmine — Thu, 04 Feb 2016 08:28:09 +0000

I love this and I’ve been trying to raise my son with all these same principles. He’s 18 months now and I have to say, we avoided “no” as much as possible and instead would say “not for River,” I can already strongly see the impact this has had on him. He’s still barely saying words but he says “no” but very freely and as a choice, yes or no. He doesn’t abuse it and use it to fight our will. And he doesn’t seem to see it as a negative thing. He’s been brought up with it being a fact and not as a word used against him when he’s not going to get his way. He hasn’t been taught that boundaries are a negative thing. I love this about him and couldn’t be more pleased with his freedom of using boundaries and respecting others while still being kind.

By: Alida

Alida — Fri, 25 Sep 2015 04:13:40 +0000

In reply to Jan Baillargeon. I love it! I wish I could find one on Craigslist near me, I've been looking for something similar and am almost to the point of having my husband just build me one!

By: Jan Baillargeon

Jan Baillargeon — Sat, 19 Sep 2015 10:56:04 +0000

I love this post and completely agree with everything you’ve said. I have only two kitchen drawers baby-proofed too and my daughter has been helping me unload the dishwasher since she was able to stand. I look forward to reading more of your posts!

Have you heard of the Learning Tower? I’m not affiliated at all. I bought one on Craigslist and use it with my daughter all the time. You may want to check it out since you like cooking with your daughter. It’s one of my favorite things to do with my daughter. Check out my post about it if you have a couple minutes:

http://lovedandnourished.com/2015/06/15/the-learning-tower/

🙂

By: Amanda Ripsam

Amanda Ripsam — Sat, 29 Aug 2015 01:17:39 +0000

I guess I did a lot of things right with my daughter she’s 8 years old and is very confident.

By: Karen Patten

Karen Patten — Wed, 26 Aug 2015 02:21:10 +0000

This is a great list – and sometimes I wonder if it doesn’t all come down to treating children respectfully. The beauty in all of your suggestions is that they serve double purposes – both that they are deserving of respect and modeling for them how to treat others.

By: Diane

Diane — Tue, 02 Jun 2015 23:42:12 +0000

You don’t think it is just how they are born. I think it is more Extroverts, and Introverts. However, your tips were great. Wish I knew some of them before my son grew up.

By: Alida

Alida — Thu, 16 Apr 2015 22:59:04 +0000

In reply to Jamie. Thanks for your comment, I agree with your point! I must not have worded myself very well, I don't agree with avoiding the word "no" completely, I think it's about a balance of when to say it and when to redirect instead. I went ahead and reworded #9 and hoping it's more clear!

By: Jamie

Jamie — Wed, 08 Apr 2015 16:53:45 +0000

Overall I enjoyed your article and agree with 9 out of 10 of your suggestions. I disagree with avoiding “No”. I agree that you should redirect children to do things that are allowed, but also believe they need to understand the value of “No”. There will be a variety of situations through out their lives that others will tell them “No” and they need to learn how to handle the disappointment they will likely feel when they hear someone tell them “No”. They also need to learn how to use “No” and they learn that through examples and boundaries.

By: Alida

Alida — Sat, 21 Mar 2015 14:03:44 +0000

In reply to Nell. Aw! Thanks for sharing!

By: Nell

Nell — Sat, 21 Mar 2015 04:12:23 +0000

This is a great complement to a post I just wrote. I’m going to share it… thank you!