Her dream was a natural hospital birth but reality was she had a C-section. But her baby is healthy, isn’t that enough?
Her dream was a peaceful home birth but reality was she had a hospital transfer. But her baby is healthy, isn’t that enough?
That is not the right question to ask.
There is now an added depth to her birth experience, a layer that shouldn’t be ignored.
For some of theses mamas when they hold their little baby for the first time there is more than just the usual joy experienced, they are also overcome with feelings of sadness, frustration, depression, and insecurities because they did not achieve the birth experience they had dreamed. These are very real and raw emotions.
There are also some mamas who are emotionally happy and content after their birth but they may need extra help around the house because of longer recovery time. Each birth is unique and no two births should be grouped together. The only way to know how she’s doing is is to ask.
Don’t assume. Ask her:
How are you feeling?
What can I do to help?
And then listen. Don’t tell her how she should be feeling. Don’t assume anything. Listen for her specific needs and be there for her.
She is my hero.
“Birth is an opportunity to transcend. To rise above what we are accustomed to, reach deeper inside ourselves than we are familiar with, and to see not only what we are truly made of, but the strength we can access in and through Birth.” — Marcie Macari
Remind her that she is your hero, that she is her baby’s hero and that she is enough.
*A huge thank you to the mama in the photo for letting us glimpse her birth. And Sarah Carter Photography for capturing the moment.*
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